When you go through something difficult, you can either feel sorry for yourself and spend your life wallowing in self-pity, or you can learn from it and become stronger than ever before. I prefer the latter.
I’ve learned a whole lot about myself over the last few months, and I’ve decided to take all the lessons I’ve learned from watching my husband die and combine them with the lessons I learned from my divorce nearly 12 years ago. Here ya go:
- Don’t settle for less than you deserve.
- Have a good relationship with your family, but don’t let your family interfere in your marriage.
- Trust is super important.
- Listen to your gut. If it doesn’t seem right, it probably isn’t. Don’t force it, and don’t stick with it just because of the time and effort you’ve put into it.
- Don’t compromise your values.
- Be honest, but be kind.
- Let the small things go, so you can enjoy the big things.
- Love with your whole heart.
- Stop being petty. As annoying as those socks beside the hamper are, they don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. I promise.
- Have fun. Life is mundane, and it can really take its toll. Do everything you can to fight it.
- Don’t work too much. Family is more important than your job.
- Make time for each other. If you don’t, you will regret it one day.
- Don’t let the hurt keep you from loving again. Love is always worth it.
- Always put God first, and everything else will fall into place.